If right now is very bad

You stay alive tonight. That is the only task. Everything else can wait until tomorrow.

If there is immediate danger

If you need to talk to a person

If it is not urgent but it is heavy

Something you need to know about Bulgaria

Bulgaria has no 24-hour psychological helpline for adults. There isn’t one. 116 111 runs around the clock, but it is a line for children and young people. The LGBT chats run in the evening — Bilitis 18:00 to 22:00 on weekdays, Single Step 20:00 to 23:00 every day.

We are telling you now, because it is better to know than to call at three in the morning and conclude that nobody is coming. Nobody answers because the line is shut — not because you do not deserve an answer.

At three in the morning what remains is 112 and emergency psychiatric care. Both are open around the clock. Both are for you.

While you wait for someone to pick up

This solves nothing. Its only job is to keep you in the room until the sharpest part passes. It takes two minutes.

  1. 5Name 5 things you can see.
  2. 4Name 4 things you can touch. Touch them.
  3. 3Name 3 things you can hear.
  4. 2Name 2 things you can smell.
  5. 1Name 1 thing you can taste.

And slow your breathing

Breathe in for a count of 4. Hold for 4. Breathe out slowly for a count of 6. The out-breath must be longer than the in-breath — that is the part that settles the body. Repeat ten times.

Sometimes the brain simply will not stop and there is nothing to reason with. Then it helps to give it something daft and harmless to do for a few minutes.

Open the games

If you do not know what to say when they answer

“Hello. I am not okay and I do not know where to start.”

That is enough. They are trained for exactly this. You do not have to explain, justify, or sound convincing.

You can be silent. You can cry. You can hang up and call again.

One thing before you close this page

What you are feeling right now is unbearable. But it is a feeling, and feelings move — even when you are completely certain this one will not.

A lot of us have been exactly where you are. We thought there was no way out and that nobody understood. Then it passed. Not because anything magically resolved, but because we stayed long enough to end up on the other side of it.

Then you blink and you are ten years older, in your own home, next to someone you love. And it is good. It is good because one day you decided to stay.

You are not alone. You never were.

Read stories from people who were there